Why is it that we can urge people to take control of their health when sometimes we aren’t even taking control of our own?
Do you ever catch yourself doing this?
This is me calling myself out on doing it.
Recently, I have been ignoring new symptoms or pain and procrastinating making new doctor appointments because I’m afraid of hearing a new diagnosis, or having a doctor tell me I that I need to try a new treatment. I have been ignoring things because I am afraid to deal with what comes next.
The last few days, I have been thinking a lot about why I have been doing this – trying to get a better understanding of whatever is subconsciously holding me back from practicing what I preach to so many.
Here’s what I’ve come up with:
New medications make me uneasy
I’ve been seeing all different types of doctors more regularly than your average person since I was about 12 years old. For a while, I was rotating through so many different medications/pills for my headaches & migraines that I honestly don’t remember a lot of the ones that I tried. I’ve experienced little to no side effects and I’ve also experienced some pretty intense negative side effects. Because of my experiences, I get uneasy about trying new medications. I also get uneasy about the fact that I continue to put these chemicals in my body without knowing how they will affect me. So, over the years, I have become more hesitant to readily fill a prescription a doctor quickly suggests.
I don’t want a diagnosis of yet another condition/syndrome
Another reason I subconsciously procrastinate dealing with new pain & symptoms is that I have received four new diagnoses in the last four years – a severe food allergy, Narcolepsy w/o cataplexy, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) and Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). So I am scared that if I go to another doctor with new pain or new symptoms, they’re gonna slap yet another label on me. Which, I know, it’s better to have the knowledge than to be ignorant to it. And I can’t predict the future. And I shouldn’t worry about things before they happen. I know. I get it. But it’s hard to think that way when I’ve been through this pattern of “go to new doctor, get new diagnosis.”
I can’t afford another condition/syndrome
It’s uncomfortable to talk about finances and even worse to think about them. But as people with chronic illness know, a lot of your money goes toward your health (or rather, trying to fix it.) Most people my age are both 1) spending their money on travel & activities and 2) saving it. I feel like I’ve had to pick one of the two. And I can honestly (and either shamefully or shamelessly, I haven’t decided yet) say that I have not been saving mine, and instead been spending it on my health & living life as an adventure. I want to participate in the things my friends are doing. I want to see the world. I want to make memories. When you’re sending a big chunk of your money on doctor visits & treatments, you really have to pick and choose where your remaining money goes. So I know that seeing a new doctor and possibly paying for new treatment only means more of my money will not go where I want it to.
I know, I know – this sounds like a whole lot of “cry me a river,” but it’s something I think a lot of people with chronic illness deal with.
Like anything else, though, I know it’s not OK to ignore something just because you don’t want to deal with it. I know that the reasons I have listed above are very valid reasons for me to be hesitant to address these problems – but they aren’t reasons for me to pretend these problems aren’t there.
I write this post as a way to 1) hopefully write something that you can relate to, so that you don’t feel so bad if you are also procrastinating dealing with a new health problem or symptoms and 2) to hold myself accountable.
If we talk the talk, then we should also probably walk the walk.