Headaches Always Steal The Spotlight 

There are many tough truths that spoonies have to accept after dealing with a chronic condition throughout their life. Even when you accept these truths though, they still can be hard to swallow.

One truth that I’ve recently learned to start accepting is that headaches and migraines present themselves whenever they want. Headaches don’t care if you’re at work, a social outing, in class, at a concert, or just hanging at home with family or friends. Headaches don’t care if it’s an anniversary, your birthday, a holiday, or just what you had anticipated to be a relaxing Saturday evening.
How do I know? Experience and the knowledge that headaches have taken over the control room.

This year on Christmas Eve, I got a migraine. Whoopee, right?

This led to a few hours of frustration (but that was already higher than usual due to other health problems) and tears. Yeah, I would admit that I didn’t hold up as well as I would’ve liked to.

My migraine controlled my emotions and mentality for a few hours that day. I thought, angrily for a while, “Seriously? Christmas Eve?” Had to spend a few hours napping, away from my family. I felt isolated in so many ways. Felt like this only would happen to me. “Just my luck.” Felt like I wasn’t able to turn my thoughts from negative to positive ones. Felt defeated and like I had zero control over my life at the moment.

After moping, napping, crying and laughing at my situation,I mentally reminded myself that if this is how bad I have it on Christmas Eve, than I am the honestly one of the lucky ones. I thought how there are so many other people out there who have incredibly worse situations than my own and who are dealing with things beyond my comprehension. I thought about the many people who don’t have a roof over their head, who are enduring illnesses that keep them on bed rest and worse, and people who don’t have family to share their Christmas with.

These thoughts not only humbled me, but gave me the physical and mental strength to get up and move on with the night.While I know I sound dramatic, at the time it didn’t seem possible to get myself out from under the covers.

Even though the head pain was still there, (not as bad as it had started out as, but still there) I was still able to turn my night around and ended up having a wonderful time with my family that consisted of laughs, smiles, and tons of delicious homemade snicker doodles (made from scratch by yours truly.)

The truth is: headaches, chronic pain, or any chronic disorder, etc. will remain in control of your body, probably more than a majority of the time. You, however, can be in control of your mentality and good spirit. Learn to take control and turn your “woe is me” moments into “glad to be me” moments.

It’s advice that I need to learn to take more often, myself.

 

 

Chronically Grateful Day 17: What Major Lesson Have You Learned From Living With a Chronic Condition?

 
After close to 10 years of dealing with my chronic and exertion headaches, I have learned that I truly can do anything but not everything. I’ve pushed through terrible headaches during fastpitch tournaments in the blazing heat 🔥, hiking miles up and down a mountain🏔, working a full time job💻, and smiling when it seemed impossible. After all that, I know I can do anything.

However, after having to quit playing the game I loved, skipping the group hiking trips, calling in sick to work sometimes, and often missing out on some of the adventures and activities my friends have planned, I know that I can’t do everything. I’ve learned to prioritize my health so that I don’t push myself when I know it would only lead me to feel even worse. I’ve learned that my headaches come during times I find inconvenient and disappointing, but I know that when its all said and done, I need to look after my health before all else ☝🏼️. It was a lesson learned after much stubbornness and denial, but it’s one my body thanks me for now. 

Chronically Grateful Day 17: What Major Lesson Have You Learned From Living With a Chronic Condition?

 
After close to 10 years of dealing with my chronic and exertion headaches, I have learned that I truly can do anything but not everything. I’ve pushed through terrible headaches during fastpitch tournaments in the blazing heat 🔥, hiking miles up and down a mountain🏔, working a full time job💻, and smiling when it seemed impossible. After all that, I know I can do anything.

However, after having to quit playing the game I loved, skipping the group hiking trips, calling in sick to work sometimes, and often missing out on some of the adventures and activities my friends have planned, I know that I can’t do everything. I’ve learned to prioritize my health so that I don’t push myself when I know it would only lead me to feel even worse. I’ve learned that my headaches come during times I find inconvenient and disappointing, but I know that when its all said and done, I need to look after my health before all else ☝🏼️. It was a lesson learned after much stubbornness and denial, but it’s one my body thanks me for now. 

Chronically Grateful Day 16: How Do You Turn To a Positive Place When You’re Having a Bad Day?

All too often we can find ourselves in bad places. Throughout my journey I’ve seen numerous days of endless head pain, emotional distress and mental worry. It’s hard to get yourself to turn your frown upside down 🙃 when you are in these kinds of moods. However, I try to remind myself that while a good cry every once in a while is warranted and good for the soul, no good will come from sitting around sulking all day long. ☝🏼️ I find reaching out to a few good friends to make me laugh always gets me smiling. I like watching my go to comedies (aka Friends and The Office) because those are guaranteed to lighten my mood and make me laugh no matter how many times I’ve seen the same episodes. Also, I’ve found ice cream and pizza work wonders. 😊🍕🍦

Beautiful People Don’t Just Happen

  
I came across this quote recently and thought it was one of the most insightful and true things I’ve read recently. 

People have their own definitions of beauty, but I know that beautiful people don’t just happen. While some people say beautiful people can be described as someone with God given good looks, I say beautiful people are ones that have gone through struggle and experienced loss but have risen from the darkness of it. 

Everyone has their mountain to climb or obstacle to overcome. We can’t always see on the outside what someone may be going through. Some choose to hide their suffering and defeat, while others it’s a visible struggle. But no matter what, when people are able to overcome their defeat, they are molded into the beautiful people they were meant to be. They understand compassion more easily and are able to fully understand life in all its ups and downs.

Beautiful people do not just happen. Everyone has fought a battle of some sort. So if you stop to take a look around you, you’ll see that beautiful people are really everywhere.